As sweet as you see me and think that I never get mad, I do. It is scary in what I can transform into, it is like a snake fanning its poison, hurting whoever gets on my way. Yikes. And that’s ugly. I don’t even want to remember and wouldn’t like you to know. It’s em-ba-rrasing…. It brings shame. I can lose my temper. When I am hurt, anger has the ability to cover hurts, to defend myself. Anger is a powerful emotion that I thought should protect, but it is not supposed to hurt.
Anger is actually not a bad emotion. It is good, just as any other emotion; like feeling happy, sad, satisfied, and joyful, etc. Emotions like these are part of our humanity. God gave them to us. They give us information about what we’re experiencing and help us know how to respond. Being aware of our emotions helps us know what we need and want or what we don’t want.
A fool uttereth all his mind, but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards. Proverbs 29:11
We cannot be fools. The Bible is truth. We cannot let this anger flutter, it will only lead to evil. We are more broken than we think we are. We can be nasty and ugly at times, and before we even think about it we could be hurting the ones we love the most. We need the Holy Spirit daily, constantly, always. But, before I start telling myself how ugly I can be at times, I want to remember that I am a human and it is my human sinful nature in need of a rescuer (every.single.day) and I have to give myself grace just as God gives me grace. Today it was me, tomorrow it may be you, and only grace can keep us alive.
Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. Psalm 37:8
It will take time and practice, but learning to recognize feelings will help us to talk about them easily, avoid or solve conflicts better and move past difficult feelings easily. To act on our anger can feel so right and needed at the moment; it can feel like it is the only way to repair the problem, but it is not. It will produce nothing and do no good. Dump autopilot, dump through-the-motion, instead identify the feeling, feel the feeling and be mindful of the moment. This is emotional awareness -it simply means recognizing, respecting, and accepting our feelings as they occur. It has not been easy to learn this, but through people I love, therapy and the Word of God, I am finally learning the skill.
But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ. Ephesians 2:4-5
Sometimes we learn from our mistakes, and it hurts to the core. Thankfully, we have a merciful God who rebukes us in love, who talks to us through his people and in the smallest little details. A God who accepts us as we are, a God who forgives and grants us grace over grace, and this, this really makes me happy.
You can fill in the blank whatever your struggle is. (Hint- google: Protective Emotions) Practice mindfulness.
Forwarded by Laura Courtney (ThM Student) and Nathaniel Ford (MA., LMFT, LPC)